Relationships

The most important thing in relationships is getting a fresh start a new beginning, perhaps falling in love again. In order to start over again, we need to start listening from a free flowing state of mind, not influenced by our belief system that judges and anticipates what to say next, or prejudges our partner. This type of listening allows us to be affected by the person’s feelings rather than their words. Listening and responding from the heart with compassion doesn’t allow us to be distracted by thoughts or memories that could be triggered by the conversation. The opposite of compassionate is analyzing our partner. Typically people analyze and blame to get their way. When couples communicate this way for any length of time we unknowing create a destructive cycle. The argument starts and each person almost knows what the other person will say before they say it. This communication causes a lot of frustration, anger and resentment. In reality the communication is all about right and wrong and leaves no room for compassion or respect. Listening and responding in the moment means speaking from the heart. Not thinking and analyzing. This truly creates an experience to a deeper level of communicating and feeling towards yourself and your partner. Heart to heart communication allows another level of wisdom to come into light. The only way to experience this is by actually practicing heart to heart communication with your partner, over and over until you actually experience the change. Ultimately, building on respect and developing compassion, creates a foundation which could ultimately lead to falling in love with your partner again.