Intense pain can be a real motivating factor in the change process. Extreme emotional distress can force us from being unsure if we want to do the work involved in order to change .or am I willing to do whatever it takes, in order to turn my life around. Reaching a pain threshold is the real motivator for change. This means that pain is so intense that you know you have no other choice but to change. The option to stay the way you are is less strong than wanting to change. For example, I remember the last time I relapsed, I fell off the wagon and as a result a major incident happened. Consequently, the pain and humiliation of this incident motivated me by eliminating the choice to ever go back to living like my, previous alcoholic lifestyle. This is the greatest pain. This type of pain comes from the inside. Knowing that I failed to live up to my own standards is the greatest pain.
In the process I made an important association. The pain in making the change outweighed the pain of not changing. Consequently, the pain turned into a driving force. It forced me to conform and surrender to my way of doing things. It created such a state of urgency, which was so intense that it compelled me to follow through with action. Consequently, I had no choice but to confront my fears and insecurity associated with changing my lifestyle.
The surrendering made me realize that the only option was to move ahead in life. My old lifestyle had to end. Deep down I knew the only option for me at this point in time was to change. There might not be another opportunity given to me. The stage was set; I became more active in seeking counseling. I had stepped out into the unknown. I started socializing more, even though it was extremely hard for me to do this without the aid of alcohol or drugs. How could I possibly stay sober long term if I had so much fear with socializing? I started taking the action to turn my life around even though it took a lot of hard work and perseverance. The saying from Nike “Just Do it” became the story of my life.
Eventually I started helping troubled youth, worked on my relationships with my loved one’s, went back to university and eventually I met my wife. We eventually married and now I’m retired from Chryslers and am currently, running my own private practice. The life I lead today is like a dream come true. Out of all the pain and humiliation emerged a different person with a much healthier lifestyle. This last relapse happened over 26 years ago the change was a result of a huge wake up call which resulted in intense pain.
It’s the pain that I felt then the humiliation and disgrace that forced me to not want to go back into my addiction. I had to rebuild myself. My last relapse was a catalyst and a motivator to change. I never forgot the negative feelings I felt after that relapse. When you’re going through that kind of devastation it’s hard to believe that anything good can come out of it at the time. However, when one door closes I learned that a new and better door opens in time. There is always something good that comes out of pain and hurt if we persevere and work through it. We have to hurt enough to be ready to change your life and become healthy and happy. If we can re direct and channel the energy in pain, it can be used as an extremely powerful force to create change in our life.
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Friday, October 21, 2011
Re-Directing Our Hard Work
The process of change can be very difficult, especially if your past has been littered with failures and negative consequences, and even successful people can have adjustment problems, if they have lost their ability to cope with present-day stressors. Many of them, for instance Elvis Presley, Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin, to name a few, have met an early demise. Successful or not, they have in common the mistaken belief that someday, somehow, something will happen and then they’ll be happy. This is sheer fantasy. We must come to realize and accept that the only way to change is to change ourselves. Not facing up to the trials and tribulations in life by masking our pain and emotions with drugs, alcohol, or sex, is all self- destructive behavior. Relying on alcohol, drugs, food, sex, material possessions or any other external gratification will only bring pain and suffering to us and all our loved ones. All of our hard work directed at obtaining a better life is fruitless if we don’t re-direct our energy. A lot of people end up feeling depressed, angry and simply just give up. In the end they conclude that hard work doesn’t pay. This creates and feeds into the self-destructive abyss of addiction. People know how to work hard, but they have to learn to re-direct their energy towards allowing other people into their lives, to learning to practice humility, patience, perseverance, and determination. This type of hard work will pay off in huge dividends in time, in the form of improved self-worth, increased closeness with loved ones and an abundance of true freedom and success in their lives.
Working on positive human attributes will empower me to change into the person I was always meant to be. In addition, I will eventually discover what makes me truly happy and how to transform myself into a person who honestly feels good from the inside out, not the from the outside in. We have to stop relying on our environment to provide relief from pain and frustration and start taking control of our own actions and reactions in order to achieve the quality of life and happiness we all deserve. Blaming others, wallowing in self-pity and playing the role of the victim are behaviours that eventually lead to addiction. Taking ownership for our actions and pointing the finger at ourselves is the exact opposite to the thinking processes of an addict. The result is a major shift in thinking.
. Major changes in my own life have not come easily. From a lifestyle of total reliance on drugs and alcohol for happiness and fulfillment, today my days are spent being there for others, and being accountable to someone else for my actions,….a very dramatic reversal. However, it has been the most rewarding change I have ever made in my life. Comments are welcome.
Sunday, October 16, 2011
The Adverse Effects of Addiction
Expecting people to act according to how I perceive my own intentions towards others and not by what I’m actually doing can cause real devastating problems. The confounders with a person like this are fantasy, blindness and denial which cause an absolute failure in communication with others, especially their loved ones. Here is an extreme example, a person comes home one night drunk and decides to make a fire in the fireplace. In their drunken stupor the person forget's to close the fireplace screen and wakes up to a house full of smoke. Immediately he runs to his children’s rooms in order to get them to safety. To his astonishment they are not there. He then goes to his wife’s bedroom to warn her. However, again he finds her not in her bedroom either. He then goes outside to find his family all safely standing in front of the house. He is really puzzled as to why nobody in his family warned him or was concerned that he was still in a house full of smoke. This person never realized the deep seated hatred his family had toward him. Secretly they wished he was dead. They all thought that they would be better off without him. The real truth however, is this person truly did love his family, however, he was so locked into himself he could never truly see what was going on in his life. Other examples are the family just dreads the sight of a parent’s car in the driveway. The sight of the car can instill fear in a child or spouse. Honestly, in a lot of cases these people had the best of intentions however, they always viewed others as the problem, and consequently, they could never see their part in any situation. However, this can be the wake up call.
The disease of addiction actually stunts and retards their maturity level. The person in this example clearly does not have the maturity and has a lot of blindness about being a husband or a father. As an addict or alcoholic the disease progresses, which causes the person to regress to earlier stages of life. They regress from acting like an adolescent, to a child then an infant. However, in order to reverse this regression it is not just abstaining from alcohol or drugs that will bring us back to adulthood.
Typically a person’s maturity level stays frozen to the age a person first started using drugs or alcohol. When a person decides to get help and go into recovery program they realize that they stopped growing and maturing. The clear realization that they need others to help them make more responsible decision is clear to them. The stage for maturing and being responsible is being set.
The re-gaining and matching our level of maturity, with our chronological age is directly understood in the terms of this person, has a disease and is something a person can grow out of, if they treat themselves for the addiction. This is done by the person asking for help regarding their issues, with close loved one’s and by setting clear limits and boundaries, which are set by a treatment program or a trained professional.
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The disease of addiction actually stunts and retards their maturity level. The person in this example clearly does not have the maturity and has a lot of blindness about being a husband or a father. As an addict or alcoholic the disease progresses, which causes the person to regress to earlier stages of life. They regress from acting like an adolescent, to a child then an infant. However, in order to reverse this regression it is not just abstaining from alcohol or drugs that will bring us back to adulthood.
Typically a person’s maturity level stays frozen to the age a person first started using drugs or alcohol. When a person decides to get help and go into recovery program they realize that they stopped growing and maturing. The clear realization that they need others to help them make more responsible decision is clear to them. The stage for maturing and being responsible is being set.
The re-gaining and matching our level of maturity, with our chronological age is directly understood in the terms of this person, has a disease and is something a person can grow out of, if they treat themselves for the addiction. This is done by the person asking for help regarding their issues, with close loved one’s and by setting clear limits and boundaries, which are set by a treatment program or a trained professional.
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Friday, October 14, 2011
Maritial Problems and Our Wedding Vows
Marital Problems and Our Wedding Vows
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The 50% divorce rate that currently exists amongst married people is quite alarming to me. Do people really know what they are committing to? In many instances people just don’t take there wedding vows seriously. When we commit to marriage we are supposed to embrace the experience of life together. Marriage is a sacred agreement to love and support each other to the best of our ability and to use the relationship as a means for dismantling and healing our individual barriers to love. Close relationships like marriage actually force us to confront our own defects in order to truly meet someone else’s needs. In other words we constantly have to be open to how our partner perceives us in order to truly respond to their needs. It is only through working out our shared conflicts and pain that we truly learn what love is all about. The arguments and conflicts pale in comparison to the true love and compassion that result from successfully working out conflicts in life.
Not only does marriage take patience and understanding, it takes hard work. Each person must be completely honest and willing to open up their private world to the other. A couple always has to strive for open, honest communication. Open, honest communication is essential in order to prevent withdrawal of intimacy, loss of hope, and marital dissolution. It is equally important to have good people to confide in outside of the marriage because this prevents us from going through hurt and resentments alone. Most importantly, having confidants helps to hold us accountable for our actions in the marriage. This is essential to a couple because it enables us to forgive and come back together again. In this we way learn and grow despite our shared pain and resentment.
Marriage often requires a willingness to be wrong, even though the ego may insist you’re right, but think rationally. Would you rather be right, or would you rather be loved? In the beginning we have to take the risk of bruising our ego in favor of surrendering to the greater good of the relationship. Taking appropriate action and choosing the right road in order to give life to the marriage, should be the number one priority.
. The most important ingredient in relationships is forgiveness. In order to acquire the ability to repeatedly begin anew, and to evaluate and re-evaluate our part in any conflict, it is necessary to practice and perfect the act of forgiving the other as well as ourselves. Recognizing and respecting the uniqueness of our chosen partner is critical. We can appreciate the fact that the other person’s strengths are our weaknesses and vice-versa. The sheer pain and frustration from conflicts that arise in marriage can serve as the perfect motivator to turn inward for the answers that lie within each and every one of us. It can be a real opportunity for personal growth for some people but can be a recipe for disaster for others.
The most critical ingredient in marriage is to have the humility and desire to work out conflicts in this sacred relationship, in order to nourish the love and respect that both people need and deserve.
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Friday, October 7, 2011
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Honesty Versus Dishonesty
Honesty is being sincere, truthful, trustworthy, honorable, fair genuine and loyal, along with the absence of lying, cheating, or theft. The truth shall set you free. This statement is so true. Honesty has many valuable attributes. On a personal note honesty has taught me to be honest with my feelings, as well as how to deal with my feelings in the moment. Consequently, honesty taught me to be aware of the consequences to my actions. In addition, being honest has prevented me from bottling up my emotions and ultimately exploding on innocent people. However, truthfulness also taught me not to trust everyone in my life. People can use your honesty against you in order to manipulate, hurt you and use you for there benefit. In this article I would like to discuss some of the reasons we can’t trust everyone and perhaps we can learn some tips at how to prevent and understand dishonesty in another light. I studied anti social personality disorder in university and I do have some regrets studying this, since now I tend to look at politicians and other leaders in a more cynical way. The truth is a very valuable asset to have; however, we also need to be cautious as to who we are trusting and talking to.
Anti Social Personality Disorder
One of the reasons some people can’t be trusted is they have a personality disorder the main one’s to watch our for are antisocial personality disorder along with schizoid, histrionic, and narcissistic personality disorders. They are all classified as having a very little empathy for others or actually lack a conscious. I would like to talk about Anti Social Personality Disorder in this blog.
In my clinical experience these clients with anti social personality disorder, are masking symptoms of intense pain since in most cases they are unable to foster any real meaningful relationships with people. This is really minimizing how traumatizing it can be to come into contact with one of these people with this personality disorder. Their personal history is always littered with a trail of people who have been manipulated and betrayed. In a surprising sense, these people frequently see their own problems as arising from flaws in other people as opposed to their own inadequacies. These people are highly superficial and lack the ability to have intimacy with another human being. They can put on a show, however when someone truly gets to know them they realize that they cannot produce what they trying to portray to someone. It’s just pure manipulating. They are trying to get something from you and are only leading you on until they get it. When you counsel people like this you catch glimmers of a world in which the feelings of other people are of little worth to the person. Underneath, the manipulation there is intense pain since these people are unable to be close to their own family or friends.
They even lack empathy towards their own close family members, how could they with the absence of a conscious. Unfortunately, they can come across as very charming; it’s their relationship with their close family members that tell the truth as to who they really are. There close family members usually want nothing to do with them. One more thing to remember a person can have two disorders at once. For example, a person can be an addict and still have this personality disorder.
Honesty has a place in the world however; being beware of these people with this disorder, is important. Think about the white collar crime in the world or the 50% divorce rate. This personality disorder definitely plays a roll in these statistics and all the corporate scandals. Relationships with people should be built up over time in order to build trust and give us time to see the truth about the person. These people with this disorder can be in white collar jobs since corporations intentionally seek them out as managers or executives. They will do anything to get ahead and have no conscious about what they do to others or who gets hurt in the process. They are the perfect people for these corporations. Corporations are looking for yes men and have little time for ethics. This disorder is in sharp contrast to being honest. Honesty absolutely has many great attributes.
Perhaps one question I could answer is why this personality disorder would be so prevalent in our society and why it is so wide spread. The answer is lies in our understanding of capitalism and what it is all about. The rich get rich, they have power and control over others. They get this power and prestige off the back of other people’s hard labor. People that have no morals and have little regard for people in general, end up moving into positions of authority in our society. Most honest people don’t stand a chance when they are dealing with people with this personality disorder. However as a counselor and a person who is in recovery there is a deeper level to look. For example even if addiction is hereditary we can still learn coping mechanisms in order to deal with our defects of character. The same goes for anti social personality disorder we can learn to cope with this disorder if we are open to learning. In both of these examples if the person can allow themselves to be held accountable for their actions chances are they will not go to the extreme and devastate other people. There is hope for everyone. There are some exceptional Politian’s and other leaders that are genuinely honest and truly are looking out for our best interest. Knowing who they are can be hard to identify, this is the real problem. Remember, the reason some people don’t get the help they need is they can’t cope with deep seated pain. Consequently, if they go untreated the pain makes them act like wounded animals. Since they can’t make it with other people they have to have prestige, power, and wealth to compensate for their shortfalls with their loved ones.
In conclusion, the only way to truly see things for what they are is to constantly evaluate and reevaluate ourselves in order to see people for who they are and what they are. What are people’s actions telling us, who do these people hang around with, what type of decisions do they make. These are just a few suggestions. However, don’t give up on being an honest person. I truly believe that having morals and standards to live by will be an asset in your life. If we look at ourselves we become stronger and more resilient in time. We keep empowering ourselves and eventually we are standing up to people who need to be stood up to. There are wolves that wear sheep skins out there, beware my friends.
Don’t be afraid to be your self. The truth shall set you fre
http://www.robertgoulard.com/
Anti Social Personality Disorder
One of the reasons some people can’t be trusted is they have a personality disorder the main one’s to watch our for are antisocial personality disorder along with schizoid, histrionic, and narcissistic personality disorders. They are all classified as having a very little empathy for others or actually lack a conscious. I would like to talk about Anti Social Personality Disorder in this blog.
In my clinical experience these clients with anti social personality disorder, are masking symptoms of intense pain since in most cases they are unable to foster any real meaningful relationships with people. This is really minimizing how traumatizing it can be to come into contact with one of these people with this personality disorder. Their personal history is always littered with a trail of people who have been manipulated and betrayed. In a surprising sense, these people frequently see their own problems as arising from flaws in other people as opposed to their own inadequacies. These people are highly superficial and lack the ability to have intimacy with another human being. They can put on a show, however when someone truly gets to know them they realize that they cannot produce what they trying to portray to someone. It’s just pure manipulating. They are trying to get something from you and are only leading you on until they get it. When you counsel people like this you catch glimmers of a world in which the feelings of other people are of little worth to the person. Underneath, the manipulation there is intense pain since these people are unable to be close to their own family or friends.
They even lack empathy towards their own close family members, how could they with the absence of a conscious. Unfortunately, they can come across as very charming; it’s their relationship with their close family members that tell the truth as to who they really are. There close family members usually want nothing to do with them. One more thing to remember a person can have two disorders at once. For example, a person can be an addict and still have this personality disorder.
Honesty has a place in the world however; being beware of these people with this disorder, is important. Think about the white collar crime in the world or the 50% divorce rate. This personality disorder definitely plays a roll in these statistics and all the corporate scandals. Relationships with people should be built up over time in order to build trust and give us time to see the truth about the person. These people with this disorder can be in white collar jobs since corporations intentionally seek them out as managers or executives. They will do anything to get ahead and have no conscious about what they do to others or who gets hurt in the process. They are the perfect people for these corporations. Corporations are looking for yes men and have little time for ethics. This disorder is in sharp contrast to being honest. Honesty absolutely has many great attributes.
Perhaps one question I could answer is why this personality disorder would be so prevalent in our society and why it is so wide spread. The answer is lies in our understanding of capitalism and what it is all about. The rich get rich, they have power and control over others. They get this power and prestige off the back of other people’s hard labor. People that have no morals and have little regard for people in general, end up moving into positions of authority in our society. Most honest people don’t stand a chance when they are dealing with people with this personality disorder. However as a counselor and a person who is in recovery there is a deeper level to look. For example even if addiction is hereditary we can still learn coping mechanisms in order to deal with our defects of character. The same goes for anti social personality disorder we can learn to cope with this disorder if we are open to learning. In both of these examples if the person can allow themselves to be held accountable for their actions chances are they will not go to the extreme and devastate other people. There is hope for everyone. There are some exceptional Politian’s and other leaders that are genuinely honest and truly are looking out for our best interest. Knowing who they are can be hard to identify, this is the real problem. Remember, the reason some people don’t get the help they need is they can’t cope with deep seated pain. Consequently, if they go untreated the pain makes them act like wounded animals. Since they can’t make it with other people they have to have prestige, power, and wealth to compensate for their shortfalls with their loved ones.
In conclusion, the only way to truly see things for what they are is to constantly evaluate and reevaluate ourselves in order to see people for who they are and what they are. What are people’s actions telling us, who do these people hang around with, what type of decisions do they make. These are just a few suggestions. However, don’t give up on being an honest person. I truly believe that having morals and standards to live by will be an asset in your life. If we look at ourselves we become stronger and more resilient in time. We keep empowering ourselves and eventually we are standing up to people who need to be stood up to. There are wolves that wear sheep skins out there, beware my friends.
Don’t be afraid to be your self. The truth shall set you fre
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Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Making Decisions Based on Our Instincts
Believing we have a sense of purpose in life is the foundation of developing our instincts and making decisions in the moment. Most importantly, the thing to remember In order for us to trust our instincts and make decisions in the moment is we can’t be in turmoil and confusion, or have unresolved issues that mask pain. There can be a lot of work to do on ourselves before we get to the point of making decisions based on our instincts. In essence, we have to be disciplined to not be focused on the past or the future. Neither can we rehearse what we are going to do or say. Our minds have to be calm and relaxed. There is a time and a place to analyze things and a time and a place to rely on our basic instincts. In order to make decisions based on our basic instincts we have to trust and believe in ourselves.
Developing our instinctual decision making process and just being present in the moment is an experience we feel, it cannot be experienced from an analytical frame of mind. Analyzing makes it impossible to experience making decisions based on our gut feeling or getting to a place of feeling and compassion in order to make an instinctual decision. The saying from Nike “just does it “is really appropriate saying to remember when trying to respond and talk from the heart. In order to allow ourselves to just feel we cannot rehearse what we are going to say, nor can we worry what other people’s response is going to be. This is also another way for our warmth and inner personality to shine through.
Making decisions based on our instincts is very effective when perhaps we don’t know the answer. We can get so used to having lists and being prepared for things however, we lose sight of acting in the moment and being spontaneous. This kind of logic is responsible for us being in a speeded up frame of mind and we end up making the wrong decision since we are stressed out and out of tune with ourselves. When we work on making spontaneous decisions, in time we learn that there is an intelligent flow under the surface that we have to re-connect with. We discover that the opposite is true; we think more clearly and are more happy and productive in the moment. The harder we work on letting go of our analytical thinking, the more room we have for being spontaneous and experiencing our basic instincts. The work on staying in the moment actually produces another more intelligent way to make decisions. .
The researchers -- led by UCL psychologist Dr. Li Zhao ping -- recruited 10 volunteers for their study. The participants were shown a computer screen with more than 650 identical symbols -- including one upside-down version of the symbol -- and asked to identify on which side of the screen the inverted symbol appeared. Li and colleagues found that when the participants were given a fraction of a second to look at the screen, they gave the correct answer 95 percent of the time. However, when the subjects were given longer than a second to examine the screen, they were only 70 percent accurate.
According to Richard Carlson the author who wrote the book Slowing Down to the Speed of Life, making decisions based on staying in the moment has two basic advantages, the first one is it allows us to slow down to the moment and attend to what is happening in the here and now. This allows us to enjoy our lives no matter what. The second advantage is it puts our most intelligent thinking to work on issues that we have no immediate answer for. Like I said earlier in this article, the only way to experience this is to actually work on these issues. In time we internalize and make decisions in the moment automatically. This is a result of consciously working on this first. It becomes automatic in time. Comments made to this article on this blog are confidential.
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Monday, October 3, 2011
Our Perception of Time and the Effects On Our Health
I have been reading this book titled Space Time and Medicine by Larry Dorsey M. D. In the book he talks about our perception of time and the effects it has on our health. The book talks a lot about how people always feel they never have enough time to do the things they need to do. The book states that our lives have so much evolved around the precise measurement of time, which has evolved due to the introduction of the clock. The downside to doing things according to the clock is we have become out of tune with the cycles of nature and we have lost our ability to be in tune with ourselves. We no longer eat when we are hungry, or sleep when we are sleepy. We instead follow what is dictated to us by the clock. It’s surprising to note how out of tune people have become with themselves. I talked about this in my article “Becoming the Person we are meant to be”. . It is critically important to re-learn how to live our lives in the moment. Let’s examine the Somatic Experiencing approach to treating trauma for example. This supposedly revolutionary (actually re-learning something we already knew) approach is based on the observation that wild prey animals although they are threatened regularly, they are rarely traumatized. What a coincidence that primitive man lived also lived in the present moment. In modern time something happens to us, as we become detached from our basic instincts, which progressively gets worst, as we get older.
Prior to the age of one a child has no perception of time and is living perfectly in the moment. By the age of two the average child begins to use the word tomorrow. By the age of three a child starts using the words morning, afternoon and night. By the age of sixteen a child’s comprehension and understanding of time is fully developed. The scientists who study time have discovered that time dictated by an external clock cause a person’s internal clock to run faster. Our sense of urgency can result thus speeding upon a person’s rhythmical functions such as heart rate, respiratory rate. Exaggerated rises in blood pressure may follow along with specific hormones that are involved in the body’s response to stress caused by the external clock.
The health issues associated with our perception of not having enough time does have an impact on our health, for example, anxiety, panic attacks, ulcers etc. are partially caused by never being in the present moment. The author noticed a lot of terminally ill patients take up fishing after they have been diagnosed with cancer. An insight came to him after he himself was fishing. He says if you’re sitting in a boat just concentrating and waiting for a fish to bite, time slows down. Fishing is the perfect recreation for someone who thinks that time is limited and they are going to die he concluded. Fishing actually just gets us back into the rhythms of our natural cycle and gets us more in tune with ourselves and nature. Alcoholics Anonymous also talks about this in their literature.
Now think about how controlled we are by watching a clock all day, and the anxiety it causes. It is an interesting thing to think about. According to the book by Dossey the clock is a symbol of death that we all carry on our wrists. Perhaps the great religions of the world are right it is through prayer and meditation that we become like children again. Possibly, the reason this is true is, the use of prayer and meditation changes our perception of time. Time slows down and we get enveloped into stillness and quietness. The great mystics have spoken. Interesting thoughts!
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Prior to the age of one a child has no perception of time and is living perfectly in the moment. By the age of two the average child begins to use the word tomorrow. By the age of three a child starts using the words morning, afternoon and night. By the age of sixteen a child’s comprehension and understanding of time is fully developed. The scientists who study time have discovered that time dictated by an external clock cause a person’s internal clock to run faster. Our sense of urgency can result thus speeding upon a person’s rhythmical functions such as heart rate, respiratory rate. Exaggerated rises in blood pressure may follow along with specific hormones that are involved in the body’s response to stress caused by the external clock.
The health issues associated with our perception of not having enough time does have an impact on our health, for example, anxiety, panic attacks, ulcers etc. are partially caused by never being in the present moment. The author noticed a lot of terminally ill patients take up fishing after they have been diagnosed with cancer. An insight came to him after he himself was fishing. He says if you’re sitting in a boat just concentrating and waiting for a fish to bite, time slows down. Fishing is the perfect recreation for someone who thinks that time is limited and they are going to die he concluded. Fishing actually just gets us back into the rhythms of our natural cycle and gets us more in tune with ourselves and nature. Alcoholics Anonymous also talks about this in their literature.
Now think about how controlled we are by watching a clock all day, and the anxiety it causes. It is an interesting thing to think about. According to the book by Dossey the clock is a symbol of death that we all carry on our wrists. Perhaps the great religions of the world are right it is through prayer and meditation that we become like children again. Possibly, the reason this is true is, the use of prayer and meditation changes our perception of time. Time slows down and we get enveloped into stillness and quietness. The great mystics have spoken. Interesting thoughts!
http://www.robertgoulard.com/
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