Serendipity: Disaster or Good Fortune

 

Serendipity: Disaster or Good Fortune

Some things are not taught in the educational system.  Most people have been taught through the educational system which is to learn to listen almost exclusively through our analytical mind, which mainly consists of memorizing or concentrating. This type of learning does not prepare to learn from the realization that we must hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain, this is due to our greatest lessons, are learned through pain. |It’s imperative to have the ability to think positively through negativity and learn and grow from it.     
Serendipity is a very worthwhile concept to understand and practice in our everyday lives.  Serendipity means a "happy accident" or "pleasant surprise"; specifically, the accident of finding something good or useful without looking for it.  It is the ability to turn disaster into good fortune.   Synchronicity is another key concept developed by psychologist Carl Jung to describe a perceived meaningful coincidence. 
Developing serendipity is done when we sense something is wrong, and we respond to the disaster or misfortune with the ability to read and adapt to the new reality quickly.  This is a matter of trusting our instincts and not allowing ourselves to feel victimized.  Actually adversity and disaster are catalysts to bringing out our deepest strengths.  Some of the other key elements to Serendipity are: learn to laugh or cry, ask survival skills/coping questions, take action, be playful and curious. When life hands us lemons, turn the lemons into lemonade. Don’t forget that laughing about something is an excellent sign that something has been learned. 

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Standing Up for Self and Others

It takes a lot of courage to stand up for what you believe in and even more courage to stand up and help other people. Courage is the ability to face danger, difficulty, uncertainty, or pain without being overcome by fear. Bravery and courage is about setting aside your fear and taking action for the good of yourself or someone else. In addition, when we stand up for ourselves, other people may be upset with the fact that you have the guts to be honest. Consequently they will criticize you and question you. It really doesn’t matter; we have no choice but to take the controversy, in order to have true self worth and reach our potential in life. If this criticism doesn’t stop it is just a sign that these people don’t have your best interests at heart.

The strength and courage comes from having the guts and integrity to be honest, in order to stand up for what you believe in.The real relevance to this type of courage is the fact that, I can only realize my own importance when I recognize that what I do for my own good will, in a lot of cases be for the good of everyone.


“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

― Nelson Mandela






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Childhood Trauma and Intimate Relationships

Childhood trauma is far more common than most people realize. According to Peter Levine a leading expert in childhood trauma the home is where the most occurrences of domestic violence and trauma occur. It is estimated that 27% of all violent crime involved family on family violence, 48% involved acquaintances. Children if not directly involved in the domestic violence were witness to it. Children can be in state of wide eyed terror, or typically witnesses or sees a loved one being brutalized, often fears the worse than the one attacked. A child can resort to hiding under a table or perhaps they can be frozen to a wall, in an attempt to become invisible. For example, a child develops a need to stay small, silent and still. The child becomes accustomed to being in a frozen state of fear. Consequently, the long term outcome of childhood trauma can be anxiety, panic attacks, and depression along with a host of other psychological problems.

Childhood trauma can show up and continue to show up months, years, and sometimes decades after an incident, this is why professional help is essential in order to overcome these problems. Breaches of trust in childhood can result in many people who stop trusting all others and began to view people as inherently out to harm them. How can these traumatized people have intimacy or close relations with their wives, husbands or children? The truth is, without help, they can’t. Psychotherapy allows the therapist and the individual to be able to deal with the past in order to re-gain a feeling of safety and self esteem.

Psychotherapy allows people to deal wit the past in order to change the present. Many people have had to survive through traumatic or painful times in their lives and could not allow themselves to feel the pain at the time, or didn’t know how to deal with the pain or trauma on their own. This unhealed trauma’s can have a dramatic impact on this person’s adult life. The walls or barriers these people have erected in order to survive in the past, no longer serve the same purpose and are actually harmful to their present situation, especially close intimate relationships. In treating such cases, psychotherapy, or counseling by a trained professional can be invaluable.













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