Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pain. Show all posts

Monday, July 30, 2012

Serendipity: Disaster or Good Fortune

 
Serendipity: Disaster or Good Fortune


Some things are not taught in the educational system.  Most people have been taught through the educational system which is to learn to listen almost exclusively through our analytical mind, which mainly consists of memorizing or concentrating. This type of learning does not prepare to learn from the realization that we must hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain, this is due to our greatest lessons, are learned through pain. |It’s imperative to have the ability to think positively through negativity and learn and grow from it.     
Serendipity is a very worthwhile concept to understand and practice in our everyday lives.  Serendipity means a "happy accident" or "pleasant surprise"; specifically, the accident of finding something good or useful without looking for it.  It is the ability to turn disaster into good fortune.   Synchronicity is another key concept developed by psychologist Carl Jung to describe a perceived meaningful coincidence. 
Developing serendipity is done when we sense something is wrong, and we respond to the disaster or misfortune with the ability to read and adapt to the new reality quickly.  This is a matter of trusting our instincts and not allowing ourselves to feel victimized.  Actually adversity and disaster are catalysts to bringing out our deepest strengths.  Some of the other key elements to Serendipity are: learn to laugh or cry, ask survival skills/coping questions, take action, be playful and curious. When life hands us lemons, turn the lemons into lemonade. Don’t forget that laughing about something is an excellent sign that something has been learned. 












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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Trust

When breaches of trust with other people happen, we can mistakenly think that we can’t trust anyone. Consequently, we become unapproachable and we can come across as cold towards other people. However, the real truth is we can’t distinguish between the people we can trust and the people we can’t trust. The un-resolved hurt and pain is actually a barrier between you and people. In a lot of cases people who have been hurt are confused as to why they treat people the way they do. The real damage is our close relationships with the people we love are effected. It’s the hurt, breaches of trust and trauma that prevent us from having close relationships with them. This information is important to know since sharing being honest about ourselves and making attempts to trust others again will in time heal us from our hurt and pain. Dealing with the pain is extremely hard but worthwhile in the long term. Life is fair in one sense, we can all be happy in life if we have the ability to allow people to be close to us. Breaches of trust, pain and hurt can prevent and be a barrier to a happy in life.