Sunday, May 20, 2012

Excuses or Facing Our True Selves

Blaming others for our problems can be a real crutch; consequently, this can actually be the root cause of a lot of physical disorders. Confusion, being constantly overwhelmed, living in the future, along with blame and self pity, can be at the root to a lot of physical problems. Not to mention just how the self pity can darkened and cloud, a person’s view the world. Really, when we carry around a lot of negativity, how could we ever accomplish and reach our potential in life.

The quote from Peter Levine says it all “true heroism comes from having the courage to openly acknowledge one’s own experience, not from suppressing, denying or blaming others for the way we behave”. However, we can be conditioned to blame and make up excuses for our unacceptable behavior. Consequently, we can blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, our coworkers or the economy. However, if we truly want to be successful we have to take 100 % responsibility for everything in our life.

In fact, when we are not facing our problems, we can unknowingly, be stuck in a maladaptive pattern of thinking and living. A conflict is taking place in us and we are not resolving it. Being stuck in a maladaptive response pattern, doesn’t necessarily mean we have a disease, however, a dis-ease or a discomfort is taking place These symptoms can range from a mild uneasiness to downright depletion of all the strength and ambition in life. The point is, in a lot of cases we have to move to a place of fluidity. This means that perhaps it’s time to stop reminiscing with memories that are not very pleasant and re-examine, what these memories are doing to me today. Healing starts when we start forcing in the pleasant thoughts in life.

We can then start to commit ourselves to healing, sometimes we find out even more of the truth to our past. In reality, we don’t really need to know the concrete truth to heal. However, when we start forcing in the good, in time it can become a counter force to all the negative things that have happened in my life. In reality we are bridging the gap between heaven and hell. Heaven is an expansion of learning forgiving and starting over. Hell is a contraction into resentment, anger, self pity, blame and in some cases suicide. The more fluid we become, the less prevalent the negative is. In time the negative energy is broken up and released. When we go through this process we have renegotiated, our thinking process and healed.







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Wednesday, May 16, 2012

The Truth, the Breakdown and the Breakthrough

What are the real consequences of telling the truth or not telling the truth? It’s hard to tell the truth, however, have we ever thought of how much energy it takes to keep a secret. In addition, the damage the pain and hurt, it causes us and our loved ones. By wasting our energy on dishonesty, we end up producing extra pain and frustration in our lives, this causes us to be overwhelmed and spiritually exhausted. People can continue to hang on to false notions about themselves even though they cause harm to themselves and others. In reality these ideas and beliefs are all that they know, however, in other cases there are power and control issues driving the dishonesty.

Truly believing and practicing honesty can cause us to actually become free and heal from the past. In my private practice people, when people finally get honest and come to grips with themselves, they always feel and look better. A person trapped in a dishonest life style looks sick, stressed out and depressed. It takes a lot of negative, energy to cover up and manipulate the truth.

When we become morally upright it’s like pulling a dagger out of a person’s heart. We become more spontaneous, and have a new lease on life. We now have more energy to pursue our dreams in life. This is possible since; energy in the honesty can now be released, in order for it, to be used, to focus on more success in our own life. “The truth will set us free”.







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Monday, May 14, 2012

Trusting and Being Your Self



Recently, I have been reading a daily reading, from a book titled “Just for Today” by Jyabla Vanzant; the specific reading is for Thurs. May 17th. The message is very powerful, it’s too bad more people won’t allow themselves to stick with there basic instincts and just be themselves. Allowing our self, to be ourselves, can be risky at times; however there can be great rewards. For example, when we start soul searching we start to discover what my strengths are, what my limitations are, what makes me tick, what will make me crack, how much pressure I can take, or what happens when I reach a goal in life, these questions can only be answered when I dare to trust being myself

The opposite to trusting yourself would be to go along with things that you know are unethical and wrong, this would be allowing myself to go against my own morals and convictions. There is a price to pay. In my clinical experience there actions would produce some real negative consequences in a person’s life. For example, the feelings of constant chaos, confusion and disorder would create a turbulence that would never subside. Betraying your own morals is the worst kind of betrayal a person can ever experience. In some cases this would lead to alienation, self pity and can be the underlying reason some people fall into depression, anxiety, panic attacks and addiction. When making decisions don’t forget we have a conscious that will not allow us to get away with such things in life. Trusting and allowing ourselves to stand up for what we believe in empowers us and enhances our self worth.

The real fundamental truth to being ourselves lies in our basic human nature. For example, children are not afraid to make mistakes look foolish, fall and stumble, or worry about the future, they are not afraid to be themselves and have no problem standing up for what they believe in. Children grow and mature at an alarming rate. Similarly, if adults could just allow themselves, to be themselves they would naturally live their life the way we were meant to live it, and consequently, they would accomplish the things in life they were meant to accomplish.

Just for today let’s not be afraid to stand up for what we believe in and be our authentic self.












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