Embracing Dysfunctional Family Values

Embracing Dysfunctional Family Values


A Possible Explanation

Part 1

There are multiple entries and reason’s why dysfunctional family values can be handed down from generation to generation. In my private practice time and time again the client and I recognize the same generational problems in the person’s family history. The repeat is usually evident with both parents and can be traced back to grand parents and even great grand parents. How is this possible?

Many of us have vowed to never be like our parents yet one day we wake up and realize we are just like them. In some cases a person recognizes that they are from a dysfunctional family, other times they don’t, since this is all they know. The parents may have been addicts, or there is an obvious history of mental illness in the family, also a person might have experienced emotionally and physically abuse as a child. It can be especially confusing for people, to grow up to be just like there parents, or to be even more abusive than they were. There is an explanation.

Think about prostitutes and people in the pornography industry, who have been sexually molested as children. These children were victims of their environment. They had no choice and no control over the situation they were in at home, at the time. In a lot of cases they had to live with there abusers. This is due, to the person being abused by a parent or relative.

The same children that were previously abused are now embracing the same aspects of their abuse, by becoming a prostitute or getting involved with the pornography industry. The only difference is that now they have the power and control over their situation. This is an adjustment that allows a victim to literally identify with the aggressor. This same adjustment can explain why a person ends up following and embracing dysfunctional family values, for a host of other dysfunctional aspects in a person’s life.

There will be a further explanation in part 2 of this topi



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